On Thursday my Mum came up to Anstruther (kindly driven by my brother and family) for an overnight stay and to spend some time with her new grandsons.
It was really lovely to have Mum/Grannie Rosalie here over a couple of days. I found Mum’s support, advice and reassurance absolutely wonderful and exactly what I needed.
I was having a tough day on Thursday. I’d overdone it; we’d had lots of visitors that day and that was the first day since being diagnosed with shingles that I hadn’t gone for a sleep during the day. I certainly learned my lesson by the time the evening had come around.
What’s more exhausting than having shingles? Having twingles! That’s having twins and shingles at the same time.
In the end Mum and Jane sent me to bed, but before then Mum encouraged and coached us through what was quite a tough evening.
Up until that point evenings and nights had been perfect: wake, change, feed, wind, settle, sleep, repeat.
Thursday evening was more like those six activities were printed on a couple of dice and shaken at random every few minutes!
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It was reassuring to be reminded that we’d only been parents for ten days by that point, and that we were still getting to know Reuben and Joshua, and they are still getting to know and trust us.
And Mum was an absolute star, simply reassuring us that we were doing the right thing: are they hungry? windy? too hot? too cold? is their nappy dirty/wet? do they just need some reassurance and a wee cuddle?
Mum gave us some great tuition in how to tell if your baby is still windy after feeding (a blue-ish look around their mouth, and pulling their legs up to their chests) and techniques to help bring up the wind. It was just what we needed, and like all good tutors allowed us to try it out for ourselves rather than taking over. Of course, having twins we could both do it at the same time! Perfect.
“Always go with your gut instincts,” said Mum. “Nobody knows a baby better than their mummy and daddy. No health visitor or midwife.”
“Yeah, but that said in this case, a midwife-trained mother of three trumps me just now!” I joked.
Over the last couple of days I’ve found that invaluable advice. As well as the advice to go for a sleep during the day!